Fearing Change? Do This Shadow Work Exercise
This blog is from my weekly series ‘Shadow Confessions’ of anonymous disclosures revealing others' deepest secrets & hidden feelings.
Within this offering, you will see yourself in others, learn how to acknowledge your shadow & receive practical tips so your shadow no longer handicaps your potential.
“I fear being my deeply intimate & emotional self because deep down I know it is my most powerful & truest version of self.”
Triggered Feeling:
The feeling described above is either fear of change or consequences of success.
Acknowledge Your Shadow:
When you are in fear of change or the consequences of success you can experience anxiety, guilt, lack of motivation, discomfort, and pressure often. Each can manifest into:
Avoiding important tasks that could potentially move your life forward or better your own well-being
Self-sabotaging by setting obstacles in your own way that limit your success
Procrastinating the start/finish of a project
Perfectionism by holding yourself to impossible standards
I go deeper into detail on this specific shadow inside my step-by-step shadow work course here.
Steps to Integrate:
Write on the following journal prompts.
What is my relationship with change? When I'm resistant does my mind fill with tension?
If I don't get it right and perfect the first time how does it make me feel?
How do I let myself be praised?
Is my inner critic serving me? Is there something constructive to be taken from this criticism? Is this criticism actually harmful to me?
Reframe your critical thoughts *screenshot to remember when bad 💭 arise*:
"You can't do this" - "here's exactly how I can do this"
"You don't deserve this" - "here's the work I've been doing to improve my life. Here are some recent wins I've had that prove I am really an incredible soul."
"She is so much better than you" - "maybe her strengths lie in (x), but I excel in (y) and (z)."
Until next week,
Jordan
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